The Fear of the unanswered question

There comes a time when a quiet, persistent question begins to surface in our lives: What am I even doing?

With my life? With my career? With my relationships. What is it all for anyway? The goals we once chased - the career, the house, the relationship, somehow don’t feel like enough anymore. We look back and wonder if, with the wisdom we have now, we would have made different choices.

Hindsight is a funny thing. Its lessons are always delivered too late. But sometimes, this feeling hits harder. It becomes a weight we can no longer ignore. We grow tired of the constant growth, tired of trying when we can’t see a way for things to get better.

They say change happens when you’re on the verge of giving up but choose to continue anyway. But I’ve learned that sometimes, continuing on is the problem. For so long, that was me - doing the work but also waiting. Waiting for a circumstance to shift, for someone to save me, hoping that by simply persisting in the same direction, something would magically change.

So, what can you do when the same questions keep replaying in your head?

Maybe, this time, you let the question sit with you. You stop trying to push the discomfort down and decide to face it, head-on. The answer won’t come overnight. But in that stillness, I found a crucial truth: it’s okay that my past choices have led me here. It’s okay that I’ve felt lost. My journey wasn’t a mistake; it was my training ground.

This is the real turning point: not when you hope for change, but when you decide to create it. You finally look at your life and ask with purpose: What do I truly want to build? Why am I here?

This is freedom.

It’s letting go of the weight of other people’s expectations, while also knowing that when you do feel that weight - when you compare yourself, when you worry, that’s okay, too. None of it is wrong. It is all profoundly human.

The difference is made by those who, no matter how scary, decide to take their lives into their own hands. There is no single right answer, no perfect life, no one correct path. But there is a life that is authentically yours. And that is everything.